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1. "a mom"

   Dutchess
   For me It’s all in your head. What you think of yourself and your relationship. Sure there are haters because of society (White man) has put you on a pedestal for so long that a lot of white women (not all) are made to think, repeat made to think and reinforced by (Black men-not all) that some how you are better. For a long time white women have been taboo and now it just hey!. But don’t think I don’t understand what a lot of blacks feel especially black women. History past and present has made us feel as if we were second class citizens for so long, and that we don’t belong in a country we built. And now you wonder why some people hate on you. Girl this feeling is much bigger than you and your boo. I never taught my three children to hate. Real love is real no matter what people say. I want my kids to love from their heart and it doesn’t matter the color. Just make sure you are with your black man for the right reason and stop second guessing what people think. Be happy! All I want in this world at this point is some dark/brown/caramel/white chocolate grandchildren. Hint Hint.

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2. Terry

   I agree with “A Mom” here, Dutchess. The problems that you perceive are real, but they go much deeper than just your relationship. Most of the hostility comes from historical disenfranchisment. White women have been elevated to the plateau of trophies. The stereotypes about them when in an interracial relationship can be scathing. White women are seen as prissy, passive, subserviant and a bunch of others. White women swallow, etc. The negativity continues.

   In American society, black women are one of the social demographics that take on the most discrimination because of both race and gender. The tears and anger are real. History shows the sorrows and rarely the invisibility of these women. The standard of beauty: blonde hair and blue eyes, has been debilitating to the self-esteem of young black women throughout American history. “Black is beautiful” became a necessary generation defining mantra.

   Some women feel betrayed by black men who date outside the race because they do not see an individual’s success as the journey of a gifted young man determined to overcome. They see the community which raised him. His mother, his grandmother, and a host of strong feminine figures which helped to make him who he is. The idea that he seeks the trophy, and hates on his sistas, once he has reached a level of success is devastating. The question is: Why can’t he find a good black woman? This in turn raises issues of the strength, intelligence, and worth of black women, who are still undervalued as people in the American consciousness.

   One last thing: As a black man, I have dated across the spectrum with mixed reaction from my community. (I was dating white girls at 13, before I discovered that their was some major social taboo. I found that out when we were in public too.) While white women are usually dreaded and black women given the pass of acceptance, its everyone else that causes the most interesting reactions. “Wait. What is she? I can’t figure it out. Oh, she’s Mexican, well…I guess that’s ok. They have gone through some shit too. At least she’s not white. Thank God.”

   Love your man, Dutchess. And never apologize for it. It’s not you. BUT, understand that if you were to have a racially mixed child, the reality has changed. You are no longer just with a black man, you are responsible for raising and explaining race to your child, who WILL be considered black. Those issues will never go away. The burden is heavy.

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3. Terry

   Check out “The Bluest Eye” by Toni Morrison

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4. Dutches

   Hey A Mom and Terry- I am glad to read the points you are bringing up. They are so important, and please do not think my little post was simply all about me and my relationship. I was using my experiences to bring up these issues. My boo and I are together for us, and it is as simple as that. Love, friendship, companionship, are the reasons to be together. What is surrounding us is all these issues, that I had hoped would come up once I started with this post.

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5. "a mom"

   Thanks Terry.
   You explained it much better than I could. Black women have had to be strong since slavery. When their men would get sent off to another plantation or were killed for trying to keep their families together. We women have had to survive for so many reasons. So we have always had to be strong. Some black men call us too aggressive too pushie. But realize what we have gone thru. Even black men should realize why their mothers had to be strong. Some men look down on our strengths and don’t see what made them what they are. For anyone to love. What you love is a part of what the black women gave that man. So don’t just love him. Love who made the man he is.

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6. "a mom"

   Dutchess,
   Nothin but love.

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7. boosy

   Damn thats some real stuff. however as a Nigerian ,i disagree.

   There are plenty of “good men” to go around. the problem is actually that a lot of women(Black,white,yellow) who don’t have fathers always go looking for daddy when they grow up in the men they choose.

   However, they should be looking for a partner. Unfortunately because of this backwards ass society, more black women are from single parent homes than their counter parts. Add poverty & racism and lack of education and it’s a whole mix of issues.

   I love taking the bus across Harlem and watching black people look at white people/inter racial couples. I’m wondering like whats the infatuation. Also I’m thinking like damn , this people really need to be exposed to some people other than their kind.

   There is that uneasiness… This is going to sound terrible, but it’s my frame of mind.

   The way i see it, i could care less, in fact if i was to ever date a white woman and they look at me. I can automatically check them off as a 1845 Nigga and me a 2050 nigga, regardless of what their color. because let’s face it, in todays multicultural world.

   Niggas is niggas

   And sometimes , i run to my degree for solace to explain why they do it. Nope, no answer there.

   So i had to come to it myself. These people are corny, they don’t want to change. They don’t know who they are, might need to watch roots again.

   it takes two to tango, and the black Africans who sold us were just as smart as their white counterparts. So no one should blame slavery, it’s plain IGNORANCE. If they don’t know , they should find out. Hope the hate helps dutchess~ Sir Bougie Black~ i’m looking for a white woman to ride the bus with…hit me up ladies…

   p.s some of this long posts may be hard to comprehend, that’s because i’m a 2050 nigga, i’m going to space, hate on that,hate,hate,,hate

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8. TROUBLMan

   The craziest factor in this situation is the concept of stealing. Like Dutchess said, you can’t steal someone.

   White women do seduce black men though but then again men are seduced by all women. The white and black seduction is one thats been subconsciously instilled in us. Part of the attraction comes from us wanting what society has told us we can’t have. On these terms, it’s black men who believe they’re doing the stealing. This way of thinking, which is distorted also, assumes that white women are property of white men and can be stole.

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9. "a mom"

   Boosy,
   I feel your anger. But history does play a part no matter what you say. Everything has history behind it, and Roots please. Come on. If a black man goes off on people because they look at him and his whiite women. Then maybe he has issues with himself. If you’re reallllllllllly in love with that person and it’s not just a game for you, you wouldn’t even see those people. Complexes come from within. And yes no one said there are not any good black men your’re one and I have two son and so on an on. I will never put a black man down. Color shouldn’t matter but history can not be dimissed.

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10. boosy

    actually i was walking back to my office now and saw an interacial couple, i had to catch myself from acting like how people i just talked aboutact..ain’t it crazy….wow, no ones perfect ya’ll, even the sir bougie black himself~ as always, love,love, whoope hate,hate,hate, Duke Boosy

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11. "a mom"

    Love you to. You can always talk to me.
    Everybody’s Mom

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12. boosy

    yaaaaay , i love you mama. MUuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuah

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13. Wroteramblin

    Terry actually drew me to this post with the question: “Do you want yourself a white woman?” Truth be told, I too have dated and bedded across the spectrum. I’ve gotten the angry glares and stares from black women when out with someone of a different race. Even going to a party with a Latino girl I was simply friends with; she got more prison stares then a little bit. But the thing I found funny about that situation is none of the black women glaring in her direction would’ve spared a look in mine if I had been on my own.

    Sometimes a so-called fetish is only as powerful as your options. And I suppose sometimes its just two people in love for whatever reason people fall in love nowadays, despite the color, race or creed. Its not always about status or a symbol for success. Maybe they just get along in a way they can’t do without one another and good for them.

    I live in a town now that no white woman under 30 is without a beige baby. Way I figure it, a thousand years from now the planet will more than likely populated with beige people if we make it that long without destroying ourselves over something as trivial as who loves who.

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14. BIG Tone

    I am in a interracial relationship with a interracial person. How funny is that. Anyway the biggest problem we had at first was that she would say “You don’t know what it’s like to be black, and you never will”. Then she worried that I wouldn’t be able to teach my son what it’s like to be a black man in America. I guess she got over it cause we gettin married. These things are ture, I don’t know what its like to be a black man. I do however know what is like to be a man. I come from the inner city with not alot of family so I stayed in the hood. It took awhile but I became a part of one of my friends families(they call me “Urban White”). I don’t try to act like anyone or anything, I just be myself. That is what I will teach my kids. To always stay true to yourself no matter what. Do you cause people will do them. Until we see each other without the color nothing changes. I’m not saying forget history but let it be that…HISTORY!

    Be easy people…Stay in TROUBL!

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15. "A Mom"

    Big Tone.
    Sorry can’t forget history! and can’t let it be. It’s what makes our present and our future. Nothing is wrong with that. Even you have a history from reading your past (The Hood) and you experiences make you the man you are today whether you think so or not. Is that a good or bad thing? The only thing that makes it bad is if you use it in a negative way. I love hearing all of your post. Check out my post about “Daddy Girl” which talks about the past and present of a young girl without a father and tell me if you think history should be forgotten (Advertising) Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey.

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16. Keene

    This has been an ongoing argument I have engaged in with my own people for a while now. Black females are always quick to say what white females are stealing/taking away our “Good” black men. I makes me sick to my stomach to hear when they say this. I usually respond back by saying “It’s that same ugly ass attitude that might make us want to step out of our own box.” Boy, do I get a mouth full after that. I myself, am starting to believe I cannot get along with my own race. I have a very sad record of 0-?? dating black females. I feel as if I come into a relationship with 2 strikes to my name before getting deep into it. It seems as if they’re just waiting for you to mess up to tell you “I told you so!” They label us as “dogs” for cryin out loud! But in the same breath they complain how “others” are snatching up “Good Black Men” Funny how those same black females probably never paid you or your boyfriend any attention before they saw you two together. I say “Fuck Em!!!” If you have what it takes to keep ya man happy, then keep doing what ya’ll do. Don’t let anyone plague your relationship with their meaningless opinions. Reality is, you will get judged in public but what are the chances of you ever seeing these people again? You’re not in a relationship with them so they shouldn’t even matter.

    Shit, if I were’nt in a relationship now and the oppertunity came to me to date another race, I wouldn’t hesitate at all. I’m beginning to fair away from my own just because I have never been completely happy with one nor got along with em. I would give love a chance elsewhere outside of my people to see if I could come to a spiritual understanding with someone of another race. My girlfriend knows this. She does’nt like it, but so fuckin what lol. Happiness is the first thing on my agenda if I cannot find it here.

    I was taught from an early age that “If she can’t use a comb, then don’t bring her home.” As you probably already guessed, my family is of southern decent. I was taught to stick to my own no matter what the case. Too busy trying to keep my mother, and maybe subconciously, my own race happy, I stuck to what I was taught. I was too busy trying to keep everyone happy but wasn’t keeping myself happy. I passed up alot of oppertunities that potentially could’ve been my destination of happiness. Don’t let it happen to you and have a great rest of your time with ya dude!!!

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17. The Color of Water

    Terry - if any woman wants to swallow regardless of her race, creed etc…its a freaking free country…let her do as she and her partner pleases! Damn, ya’ll are also forgetting that there is another interracial world of relationships out there in the gay community…maybe it would be easier to be in one of those - would gay men be “stolen goods” as well?

    I guess it is a question that could be debated back and forth and back and forth. The reality is that people are products of their environment. I would like to commend those who see love as “colorblind”…because at the end of the day, there will be these feelings of ignorance and hurt and anger for a while…until the generational shift has completed its cycle. For me…I just jump in and follow my heart…

    I mean - come on - we are about to see an interracial President. I like to point out to everyone who touts his “blackness” that hey, HIS MOTHER IS WHITE! Did anyone forget that? And it seems that he turned out ok…don’t ya think? Whether Barack decided to marry a black, Asian, Mexican, white, or Indian woman…it is and will always be HIS choice.

    People - a man I once loved asked me what the most powerful thing in the world was…and you know what he said?

    CHOICE.

    Ironically - he was black, and I was white. He said he loved me, but choose to let others’ opinions get in the way of our happiness.

    Maybe he doesn’t see the hipocracy in believing the words he preaches when he sees Barack…

    “YES WE CAN”.

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18. "a mom"

    Race to me is not the issue. Two people in love are two people in love. But you say all of a race is bad and that’s not true. Black men say the same negative things about black women. It’s a two way street. And guess when it come down too it there are men dogs, women dogs, black dogs, white dogs etc. Color has nothing to do with how a person treats you. So go on over if you think things will be more rosey. Test the waters. You will have a rude awakening. The Poo Poo is all the same and in the long run it’s how you value yourself and how you allow people to treat yooooooooooooooou.

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19. The Color of Water

    I will reiterate: We choose our own happiness.

    Period.

    God loves us all…and we bleed the color red.

    Love - let it live and may it flourish…

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20. TROUBLMan

    To the white women in the world, what do you say to black women when they accuse you of being a thief? I’m a black man and I will let it be know, I like white women. I love all women. When black women accuse me, I accept whatever they say. I know what humanity is and recognize their ignorance.

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21. "a mom"

    Hey Guys! I feel like you are picking on the black women here. She is not the bad guy. Their is the other side to this and don’t say you just love it when they choose another race over you. We can talk and talk and get mad at each other but it comes down to what I said three comments up. It’s all about how you value you.

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22. "a mom"

    P.S.
    Don’t ly when you see a beautiful black with a handsome white man, you don’t say “What she doing with him” be real.

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23. Terry

    I’d like to set the record straight:

    I am all for the right of people to choose to swallow

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24. Terry

    By the way, would anyone care to speak on the interracial politics of gay couples. Not only have I never thought about it, I’m not even sure where to begin to approach the topic. The homosexuality’s taboo is so strong in our society that it seems to have trumped the interracial couples issue.

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25. "a mom"

    It’s had to express what I feel. I don’t know about evreyone else but yes we have some family members who are gay. But me don’t talk very much about it. We just go along caring and loving them. Maybe we should talk. It’s here and it’s real.

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26. Boosy

    I look at the whole issue as cultural in an aspect.

    Through slavery black culture and white culture have differed on values and norms.

    SO in looking to the black slave woman, who is slapped twice. by her man being degraded tot eh point of a boy, and by the master who rapes her and impregnates her kids(light skin babies).

    I find that we should understand the past, realize that the future is about taking that we have been lied to and all that and start making new history and traditions. That to me is TROUBL…KEENE up there said eh was told if “she can’t use a comb” don’t bring her home..That is really the slave masters psychology by lynching to let the slaves know not to touch a white woman.. As a psychologist (and yes i have a degree about two finish 2nd then of to Doctoral), honestly, we need a lot of counseling as a community.

    many black people need to know

    - It’s not your fault you are poor
    - you can do something about your situation
    - education is vital to having the FREEDOM & LIBERTY to choose whatever the fuck you want to do with your life..

    I may hate,hate,hate but realize that we may be part & fabric of this country but our history doesn’t start here, nor will it end here.. As for me I’m going to space, who’s coming with me…Ticket prices $200,000 Virgin Galactic…Holla at the kid….What’s up to the Dutchess…..Proliferai…….

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27. "a mom"

    I’m going with my son he has already made plans for our trip to the moon. Your last post was heart felt. I know we can make a change and I see it more and more. We have to let go of our anger and blame and get into TROUBL.
    Ticket prices are cheap.

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28. TROUBLMan

    A MOM

    I hate to sound like I’m picking on black women, but I get the most ridicule from them. If I’m with a white girl, white people usually direct their hate toward her. Blacks direct it towards both of us.

    Of course there’s a natural connection that a black men and women have. But as a black man I’ll say, there’s also an unspoken connect between white women and black men. I know the brothas out there feel me.

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29. Dutchess

    So the point is, what do we all do. Nothing? Let it all ride out, and see if these feelings either in your minds or the minds of others go away? Or do we say something when we see it? I personally would say something, but maybe that’s because I love Speech as a future Speech Pathologist, and we all should be talking. We are all Americans, and we are all in the same pursuit of happiness. Everyone’s tastes are different. So, do we let ignorance continue? How do we stop this? Any ideas?

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30. "a mom"

    If the world would take the time to learn each other maybe this wouldn’t be.

    TROULMAN
    Why do you give blackwomen a hard time? Same reason they give it back to you. Come on we dealin with the same demons. And of course the brothas out their can identify. You feel me.

    DUTCHESS
    you can speak to people by living your life in the right way and projecting your love. People will work things out.

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31. Keene

    Momz

    I’m not trying to single out black females but like TROUBLMAN, I do get alot of ridcule from them. As you pointed out about history, yes it does play it’s parts on what goes on today. But what about current history where there is a single mother raising her children? The mother is mos def in charge of them all. On a positive note, it teaches our black women to be leaders and to be strong for her families. I will never take that away from our women. Now on the flip side of it. The same teachings that our young daughters pick up can become an issue in a black relationship. Speaking from personal experience, I have had a lot of cases where the female tried to dictate the relationship with the same leader skills she has picked up from her single mother. Where this conflicts is that my mother taught me to be a “man” and not to take anything from anyone, reguardless of race, age, or sex. As a man, I feel that I don’t need to be told what to do or have to answer to anyone. It’s a fucked up situation that we are in. You are right though about our women having to be strong from our history. I’m behind you 100%. But where does that let our black men excell? Do we always have to follow behind our black women, or will they ever let us step up to be the man they have alwasys taught us to be? Just think, if there’s a daughter that came up in a single mother home where she was taught that a black woman was the leader, why wouldn’t she take the same teaching to her relationship? This is where our race bumps heads alot of the time.

    I heard alot of complaints and have made the same complaint about black females trying to be our new moms. It’s not niether sexes fault. It’s just the nature that we were braught up in. Doesn’t help alot of the time as well when some single black mothers are steadily talking down on the fathers that were not there alot of the time. To a fresh, innocent mind, this is part of her teachings and this is what she knows. I came up living is San Francisco while my dad resided in Albany, NY. She taught me many values herself. She taught me many skills so I didnt have to depend on my woman to do them for me, stuff like cooking, ironing, and even sewing. So now when I get into a relationship with a female who didn’t have a father in her life as well, she begins to see that she does not have that same control over the relationship as her mother did her household. This is, in my opinion, when the shit hits the fan. I feel like black women feel that black men are disobedient… like the dogs they portray us to be. Through frustration, they usually lash out at us because of panic. (Once again, this is just my personal opinion) They lash out at us when they feel they are beginning to lose control.

    This when we look to another source. We take interest in the white female. We take interest in the white female who too had to overcome the inferior roll in her society. In her society, it’s the white male who is known as the leader, the alfa, the king. So this is where the connection between the two come to part. Tired of being ordered around and looked down apon at, we find a connection, a bond, and finally an understanding for someone who understands where eachother comes from. Opposites attract right? Man to Woman, Black and White. You do the math

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32. BIG Tone

    A MOM

    I never said forget history. I was saying don’t let history be the reason you won’t be with someone. The wound is deep and there is no excuss for the things that happened. But they did happen. We need to learn from that and make the changes. Life is all about forward progress but you can’t move ahead if you live in the past. Me and my girlfiriend get all kinda looks. People are taught to think that it is wrong to date some one of another color. I won’t even say race cause we are all the same. My father was a part time dad. My mom raised me. Maybe are history isn’t that much different.

    ” We shall require a substantially new manner of thinking if mankind is to survive. ” -Albert Einstein

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33. Q.

    Boooooooooo!!!

    When I read this post, I KNEW somebody was going to eat this up!! I’m going to make note to take the time and post.. I KNOW a lot of people that will take offense to this, and I’m definitely going to point them to this.. I feel (which is good), that the voices thus far have been a bit more PC..

    Nah, let me just “go in”.. I feel like we just got turned out by Dutchess (much respect to you for even posting this.. that’s real).. As a Black man, i do feel a certain way.. both ways.. I’ve been in MANY discussions where we talk about white dudes w/ Black chicks.. MANY.. so it’s not really one sided.. i even take offense to the whole “stolen” piece to this.. just doesn’t sit well w/ me hearing that from you..

    i’m all for dating who you want, but i’m also all for feeling a certain way when i see things.. do you.. that’s the bottom line, but i don’t see an issue with any Black women having an issue with this.. with so many things that have actually been stolen from us, and with the issues facing so many communities (not just Black), i can get what people think as it relates to this..

    from my end, i haven’t dated a white woman, but i would never say never.. the thing for me is about understanding me as a Black man and what i go through on a daily basis, just being a Black man.. something that a white woman probably never would understand.. if i do the Chris Rock thing and say “cracka ass cracka”, i don’t want to have to explain it.. if i come home stressed at corporate america, i don’t want to have to explain that.. when i come home, i want my woman to be able to just “get it”, without me having to go through those details.. now, that’s not saying a white woman can’t console me or love me any more or less, but it just is a different feeling to not have to explain it.. it’s like a “head nod”.. we might have 18 different variations of a head nod, but we all know what each one of them means w/out having to say a word..

    obviously these are just my thoughts, but that’s what was asked.. I’m hoping to hear more from others that i know are truly bothered by this..

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34. Dutchess

    Q- I hear you. I was just stating that I have heard this “stolen” concept as a stereotype, not truth. I wanted to reach out and see if anyone else felt the same. Love is love, and we are what we are- happy, together, and growing, and we definitely do not care what other people think. Let them look, let them hate, let them like it or dislike it. We still go on with out day. I wanted to know if these stereotypes, what we are all hearing of, are really true. Also don’t brush this off like you “just got turned out” by the Dutchess…the Dutchess was bringing this up because it is real, it is my everyday experience.

    Everyone keeps saying “its your life” or “if you are happy then…” If everyone doesn’t care, then why are there these stereotypes that we all cannot ignore?

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35. Keene

    DUTCH

    It’s not everone who doesn’t care, it’s just “us” the TROUBLmakers who don’t care. We can only speak our own opinions but cannot speak on our whole societies behalf. As long as you are by your man’s side, this is sadly going to occur

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36. Terry

    Dutchess- People definitely care, hence the looks. Be glad that you can’t read minds. But, Keene and WroteRamblin make strong points about and the parallels drawn by the experiences of opposites.

    I dated both black, white and hispanic girls early. The girls who expected most from me were black because they already had a clear image in their minds of how I should behave. I also got the most hate and ridicule from black girls early on because I didn’t easily fit into the stereotype. I was never hood. As far as I am concerned, most of these girls who never gave me a second glance have no right to speak on my actions now. Some were cool with me, others wanted to change me. Like I said, it’s not that they don’t care, I just don’t give a damn.

    By the same token, to a LOT of white girls, I am nothing mroe than a fetish, or phase, or fancy outside of their normal routine. I have met more racist relatives than a few who had MAJOR problems. It’s not just black people who get mad, some white people claim righteous indignation that their innocent little girl has a perceived BBC in their mouth. Personally, I smile at the thought. I smile because they become victims of their own fantasies and prejudices. Actually, if I find anything strange at this point, it is dating ONLY within my race. Kind of limiting.

    I am a black American. If you take a look at the heritage of both sides of my family, I am mixed with over half a dozen different cultures of people. Does sleeping with an African girl count as interracial coupling?

    One more thing: social trend or not, I find white people who tan yet don’t date outside of their race to be hilarious!

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37. "a mom"

    Keene
    That’s all I was saying. You said it history is part of it and we do sometime bump heads. But if your mom wasn’t the strong women she was; Well you know what I mean. I also agree with you about our women letting a man be a man which does not mean wife beater or one who hurts his family with agression. But there are some women who are like you speak(not all) and we do need to sit back and relax and love our men and stop trying to be so hard. Sometimes our men don’t see that a being strong they see us as being mean.

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38. "a mom"

    P.S.
    Keene that last paragraph is WACK! Please don’t insult me with that understanding thing and how you connect with them. And don’t tell me how white women has had to over come because of the white man. Please. What about your connection with hispanics and asian etc. When you say you want some understanding say from a good women not a black,white,asian etc. They all the same in some aspects and they are all different in other but understanding has nothing to do with race. Guess what you are our king and their are a lot of good women who would not look down on you. Trust me.

    DUTCHESS
    Please know that your post stirred up a lot. But girl thats a good thing.
    TROUBL is just what your post is all about. Talking and letting our feelings be known. Yes we are going to tell it like we feel it good or bad but you are a part of this community, just like we all are no more no less. I love it. Feels like i’m sitting in a room talking to a lot of excellent young people. We never even seen each other but you are part of men now. I know after the discussion is over our lives will change forever because we are all striving for the same things in life.
    LOVE, PEACE and the RIGHTS for all.

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39. The Color of Water

    Judgement and Stereotypes will never go away.

    Many say these days it isn’t just your color - but now your socio-economic status…if it isn’t one thing it is another.

    At the end of the day, God created us all equal, and by the falling of man - we let shame/judgement/sin/hurt/anger etc…enter our lives.

    Maybe I am just too much of an idealist - and/or been hurt too much in the past by men saying one thing and doing another…but somehow I stay optimistic.

    …to me, a man is a man. A woman is a woman.

    One may be attracted to some over others - and that is their perogative…we must all look at ourselves in the mirror and be good with ourselves.

    I am the first to say that I do know white men get upset when they see a white woman with a black man as well…so it is not just a “black woman” issue. Personally, when I see interracial couples I get all warm and fuzzy inside.

    Why? you may ask…easy - because those two people found something worth fighting for…in a world that is crazy and judgemental they are just “doing them”…same with gay couples. While I may not agree with their lifestyle, inside I am happy that they have found something that makes them happy, makes them whole - and they are going to stand up for each other.

    KUDOS, KUDOS.

    To those who will “never say never” and say that they want to come home and have his/her partner to understand the “black tax”…go on and do you - just don’t hide it - be confident in who you are and what you believe, I just say do not judge and/or press your beliefs onto others…becuase you may just be throwing a thorn in someones story…

    Peace. Love.

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40. Keene

    Momz that wasn’t to say I just want a white girl. I was speaking from DUTCHES point of view– Sorry for the misunderstanding. Wasn’t trying to insult you

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41. Keene

    P.S.

    It was more of a guess to understand why black men MIGHT choose white females or any other race. I can only speak for myself. I do not know what goes through the rest of my counter parts heads. I might be wrong or I might be right. Who knows, who will ever know the reason why black men step out of their color lines? Once again I apologize, but my insights are never meant to be solid reasoning.

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42. "a mom"

    Hey!
    Sorry. I was getting all fired up. I know it’s not personal. But this is what makes this post so interesting. I hope that we can get some fire under our other topics like were have with some. There has been some very goods post since this blog has started and very interesting topics we can all relate to. EVERYBODY lets keep it going we may really blow-up.

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