Poison’s Paradise

Written by: Alwayswrite

Drinking and smoking takes a toll on our physical and mental makeup. We all know this, yet most of us place these toxins in within our minds and bodies. I began at around the age of fifteen or sixteen, or something I’m necessarily proud of having done, but facts are facts.

What prompted me (and others like me) to put toxins in my body? Peer pressure? Certainly. Everyone I knew was experimenting at the time. Still, I’ll own the simple fact that I simply wanted to drink and smoke. It was certainly a conscious decision on my part. Years have passed, and I still partake in the ritual of altering myself. My reasoning, now, I feel, is slightly different. I somewhat NEED to drink and smoke to relieve pressure–not from peers–from day to day living.

Nothing supercedes a drink and/or a nice smoke after a long day. Nothing supercedes a drink and/or nice smoke on the weekend. I recall, recently, when I was out a couple of weeks ago, drinking and smoking, with two friends–good times. It would be remiss on my part to state it was ONLY the drinking and smoking. We have all encountered the situation where drugs and alcohol just don’t compensate for insignificant company.

The question becomes: Well, if drinking and smoking were extracted, would the good times between you and your company exist? The answer is a good barometer for the designation of the title “friend” on your company. I digress. Drinking and smoking, for me, is such a social activity– and I believe that has been tested and proven. And all of us are social beings, addicted to one another. It’s funny, in a dark manner, the way drinking and smoking brings us together, yet tears our mind and body apart–laugh, laugh, laugh. I feel the jokes on each and every one of us really. It doesn’t bother me. I enjoy laughter–in whatever form it comes.

I’ll cite this personal paradox: I’m addicted to living, an addiction _which involves my mind and body, and other minds and bodies. And this _addiction causes me to be addicted to drinking and smoking. Is my paradox valid? Or, is it just the thinker in me?

Tags: Culture, Health | May 1, 2008 |

26 Comments, Comment or Ping

*SB*

I agree with you on so many levels within this article…its a great post!!!

I started off drinking and smoking at a young age because of peer pressure too.

I have to say that I do have more fun when I drink and smoke although I do not need it to enjoy myself…there was a point when i felt like I needed something everyday to make life more interesting but I realized thats no way to live…i felt healthier when I cut back too.

My friends are always more entertaining when I smoke or drink but I enjoy being around them when Im not…I find that you do get closer to a friend when you smoke and drink with them tho…a special bond is formed because your sharing an experience…my friends are cool when were sober too- I have to distance myself from the ones that I need to do something to have a good time around…

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Boosy reply on May 3, 2008 11:43 am:
I heard this theory that smoking and drinking in excess was a plan by “the powers that be” to kill off a nice chunk of society …thoghts…..and yes i occasionally drink, cutting the cigs out..tho

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TROUBLMan

SB

Describe the more fun and the special bond you mention.

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*SB*

TM-

It seems as though when I drink or smoke with friends- its a different experience than if we were sober…we get really silly and we laugh more…I think thats because we’re able to let ourselves go easier…not only that but when I drink and smoke with my friends- I feel like we’re able to understand each other on another level…they’ll open up to me more and share complex notion- Im either able to understand it, agree with it or share my views…not that those things dont happen when were not under the influence but it brings us together because we’re talking about deeper things or acting more crazy or lazy than we usually would….

I always say that there something about drinking and smoking that makes a person not give a f&^$…people take that feeling to a good place or bad place…bad place usually ending up in some kind of drunken/high mistake… good place is having memorable moments with your buddies….

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Malia

GIRL!!!! I’m right there with you!!! I’m more fun when I’m drinking…
It’s sad but true, people like me better when I’m under the influence of intoxicating beverages. It’s not just my own imagination either, men love it when I’m tipsy!!!! People in general get more dis-inhibited when they are drinking and I think that is the big draw to alcohol. There are plenty of tasty alcoholic drinks out there but I can think of a lot better tasting things to drink. Heck if you had a drink minus the alcohol it would probably taste a lot better. I can’t say I ‘like’ the taste of alcohol. If you think about it, Not very appetizing at all….anyway…….

Most of the crazy nights of “adventure” I’ve had involved alcohol and I think that the dis-inhibition is the primary reason…..I thought when I stopped drinking I would be boring, but actually I have more fun!! I thought I needed alcohol to be social but as you all can see - you can’t get me to shut up! I thought sex could only be good with alcohol but in all actuality it numbed my senses and I’ve actually had the best orgasm of my life completely sober…LOL!

It was only phone sex…so don’t get too excited!!!!! LOL

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Felicia

I hate to admit it but there are occasions when I prefer my boyfriend to be drinking. He’s sweeter and more agreeable. Less sarcastic lol. My ego needs it every now and then

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Malia

LOL, thats cool. I think ‘happy’ drunks tend to be nice people overall. It’s the violent/irresponsible ones that I’m weary of….Yeah, my ex was really romantic when he was drunk…..I wish I could’ve been the other way around though…..

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Crystal

Drinking can remove some inhibitions and put you in the “what the fuck” mode that is sometimes needed to stop the thinking of the work day and other problems of life.

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Malia

Crystal

I used to think that way too Crystal but if you drink every night for a few days it can be really depressing, it makes you concentrate on too many negative things and at the end of the day it can really sap your self confidence - THAT is something no one can afford to lose!!!!!

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TROUBLMan

SB, MALIA
I dig both of you, but don’t you feel at some level that shit is backwards. There’s a female in my life and it seems like all her friends are basically smoke buddies. I don’t have a problem with her smoking, it’s her choice. I just don’t understand why she can’t hang out with people that she doesn’t smoke with? It’s sad because she has a lot of potential and they are on some small minded shit. I’m starting to think I give her too much credit.

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TROUBLMan

Happy drunks are sad sober people

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Lag

I was just pondering this last night. I have a lot of friends who I used to drink with all the time. We’d go out every weekend, even during the week, and get pretty drunk every time. We had tons of fun - I’m not one to say that it’s just as easy to have fun without drinking, because it’s not.
But the interesting thing is that now that my friends and I don’t drink as heavily as we used to, I still notice that they begin to act differently when they’re drinking, even if I know they’re not drunk! They EXPECT to get drunk and act differently, but even if they aren’t intoxicated they act less inhibited and laugh more, etc etc… It’s all in their heads! How bizarre…

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Q.

i get it, but personally i don’t need it.. it helps that i’m not a big fan of either smoking or drinking.. i drink, but on a social level, and then it’s 1 maybe 2 drinks.. i’m just not a fan of the taste for most of the drinks.. but i do find that so many people around me tend to open up a bit more.. let their hair down.. all that stuff.. and it’s funny.. i remember at my party this year (TM and RBT were there), people commented that i was different.. they thought it was the alcohol, because we were doing a soul train line, and they never saw me dance or anything.. they always saw the corporate dude.. but i had to tell them, that i was the same.. if you catch me at the crib or out, i’m always doing those things.. joking, dancing, etc.. but i think, since they were drunk they were more loose, which made the whole environment looser in a sense..

smoking is completely different.. i’m not talking about the nicotine stuff either.. i KNOW that changes ppl.. either laid back or more talkative.. it’s funny to witness (i’m not claiming nothing).. my one boy gets a bit more emotional.. hugging and all that stuff for no reason.. laughing at the same time.. so, it’s not on the whole Martin “you so crazy” vibe, but just on some genuine love stuff.. i know a woman who will just talk about any and everything.. if you’re watching tv with her, don’t allow her to smoke.. she will talk through the show/movie, but will be quiet during the commercials..

i’m feeling like AW, though, as i feel people do need it nowadays.. some people need things to cut their minds off.. to stop thinking so much about all of the negative stuff.. to just get through the night.. so, if i was the president, i would legalize weed.. people need a stress reliever.. Go Green!!

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Malia

Q.

You are goofy!!!! Maybe I see that side of you because you don’t sign my checks…LOL!!!

TROUBLMAN

You have a dilemna because it’s the addiction to the smoke buddies and the whole vibe that surrounds it. It can become a crutch and people don’t feel “NORMAL” without it in their system, same with alcohol. If you surround yourself with people who do it, then you don’t even recognize that you have a problem as it’s the accepted “way” in your circle of friends. I used to smoke, only when I drank, but my boyfriend told me it turned him off and that was it for me. It matters if the person matters. When someone you respect tells you the real, it makes all the difference in the world.

Try it! You’ll know for sure if you’re wasting your time or not……

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Q.

Malia, i’m with you on the whole “someone you respect tells you the real”.. i refuse to date women who smoke cigarettes.. people think i’m playing, but i’m dead serious.. if you smoke cancer sticks, you are off.. i’ll date a sloppy woman before i’ll date a woman who smokes cigarettes..

Oh, and i’m glad i don’t sign your checks.. I’m not sure i could afford your rate!!

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Malia

Q.

I’ll write an amount down on a piece of paper and slide it across the table …..you just nod in the positive - we’re good! A sloppy woman? LOL—-what is that???

Sloppy drunk?

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ndira

Nothing like rolling a fatty at the end of a long hard day to unwind and focus. does not depress me at all unless i was sold a bag of boo boo lol

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She-Rell

lmao

I go out too much these days to drink everytime. Some days I drink hard liquor, other days its just wine, and yet other days nothing. In my younger days i felt I needed liquor to have a good time. Nowadays, nah!

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Crystal

Troublman
You could be giving her too much credit. I know I have done that with people. I don’t smoke weed. Don’t like it and never have. And not that fond of people who do smoke.

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She-Rell

Well I dont smoke so i can only guess. You hang out with those who have the same interest as you…

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TROUBLMan

MALIA
I don’t have a dilemma, she has one. I’ve told her about her shit but at this point I’m not willing to say much more. She needs to be critical of herself and recognize who her friends are. I’m just working at leading by example. If se gets it then cool, if not then it’s also cool. As long as I’m not caught up it that, things will fall how they’re supposed to.

Q
First off you a fool. LOL. Homegirl need Tivo…

I feel you, I drink on a social level, but I don’t need to drink to be social. A lot of the times, I do it just to work on my empathetic self, meaning I like to feel what everyone else is feeling. It lets me tap into their psychology. It’s fun if you’re with people you trust in a good environment…On the other hand, don’t get twisted, by yourself or with people you don’t trust and be in the spot trying to read minds. I’ve done it before. Emotions are contagious. You’ll leave the club ready to fight someone.

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"A Mom"

I’m a little sad to hear people need to drink or smoke to have a good time, especially when I see my daughter the next day. throwing up and so sick she can’t get out of bed. She says she will never do it again, but she does.
All of my friends drank and smoked and I never stop hanging out with them because I loved them. We all had good time when we were out together, but to see them the next day, was pretty sad. Most of the time they didn’t remember the night and the good time they had.

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Q.

Malia.. I got you.. Slide me that number.. A sloppy woman (i’m working on not saying chick as much) is just a nasty woman.. Her appearance is always off (pants too snug, or too little, shirts not fitting over he stomach that could use a few more crunches and a few less fries, her attitude is nasty, she chews on poop, she thinks she’s hotter than she is, etc).. i could go on and on.. And please believe that i have no issue with “thick” women.. i have a personal visual problem with 300lb chicks squeezing into size 4 tops.. just don’t need the NATO members coming at me (think about that acronym)..

TM, you’re right, you can be led by others when you’re intoxicated.. i’ve been in fights just because of that.. i hit 25 and i was like “y’all gotta roll without me”.. drinking alone is a sign of an alcoholic or someone on that path.. a glass of wine, cool.. pouring out henny for your peoples when everyone is alive and kicking? not a good look..

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RBT

To alwayswrite your paradox has validity but is not completely valid, Nigga you drink and smoke cause you Want to, you dont get off that easily.

I’ve been doing both for quite a while now and have had some extremely good times and some really messed up times its all how you balance it out I grew up with my Moma telling me it ain’t what you do it’s how you do it so as long as you can handle yourself and still take care of your responsibilites then make it do what it do. I can enjoy myself without drinking but once I start drinking its on. My close friends are characters already so i don’t really need to drink or smoke with them to have a good time we wyle out on some natural shit, we be drunk on laughther and high off life.

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Malia

Q.

NATO???? See, why you gotta make me think and stuff?????

Need Another Tank ——-
Need A Talk —–
Not Another Tubby ——

*shakin my head* I need a drink for this one…..

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Q.

National Association of the Thick and Obese..

it’s my code when i’m around people that are way out there.. i wanted to use a term that people wouldn’t really catch on when i’m using it so much.. again, i’m not against fat people, and i don’t think “thick” is fat, but i’m seeing these 400 pounders keep calling themselves thick..

ok, i’m going to hell.. i feel like Boosy right now, as i’m expecting all of the hate to come..

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TROUBL

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