Invariably, as we trek down the road to adulthood, we must bypass our inclination to pursue foolish puppy love, and reckless lust in favor of a more stable “adult relationship.” Gone are the days when we can merely “hookup” or “tap that,” as adults we become standard bearers to the ever important idealized American dream. More »

A what-you-don’t-know-won’t-hurt-you attitude may have been acceptable 20 years ago, but it’s a new day and the things you don’t know can indeed hurt you. We always discuss the emotional aspects of cheating. But, what about the health risks? More »

You try hard not to let your insecurities get the best of you. You just can’t shake the feeling that something was not right. You begin to entertain the thought of looking through your partner’s phone or email. Do you have the right as their partner? You should be able trust your partner enough not to invade his or her privacy, but if you were to resort to snooping, can it be justified? More »

I recently read an article in New York Magazine called “The Affairs of Men,” written by Phillip Weis. The article’s focus is men have a driving, urgent need to have sex with a variety of women and that we, as a society, need to compensate that by allowing them to have sex with multiple partners, with or without their wife’s knowledge. More »

The past month has been bursting with human suffering. There were terrible storms in the American midwest. There was a cyclone that killed tens of thousands in Myanmar, and there was an earthquake that resulted in thousands of deaths and thousands of more disappearances. It seems that the news has become a virtual parade of human suffering. And none of this is out of the ordinary. We have gotten used to it in recent years. More »

There comes a point in every relationship when a threesome is brought up or suggested. I find that most men are very fond of this idea but keenness and curiosity has grown amongst women as well. More »

I write for a porno magazine. Granted, I’ve only been at it briefly, but for freelancing it’s fairly lucrative, and it’s easy, too. I’ll admit, I’ve seen some weird stuff, but I try not to judge people for their sexual appetites. People like what they like, and even if I don’t agree with it, it’s not my place to butt in. But, after watching Boogie Nights for the first time a few nights ago (I know, it’s about damn time!), I got to thinking about the porn industry these days, and what it says about our culture. More »

Today’s question comes from Tired of Bugaboos. T-O-B asks, “Why is it that men who are a 3-4 on a scale of attractiveness feel they can holla at women who are a 7-8?” More »

How much does it hurt when your husband or wife commits adultery? How many of you have been in the situation, where your girlfriend or boyfriend harmed you by sharing love and intimacy with someone other than you? Many of us have been victims of this type of behavior throughout our lives, but many of us have also been guilty of the same crime. More »

Ok, so you’ve read the title of this column and I know what you’re thinking. “What makes this guy think he can answer my questions?” The answer is simple – your questions are the same mysteries that have puzzled young, single women since the dawn of the modern dating age. And, it just so happens that I’ve been divinely charged to share my expertise with you.

For years I sat idly by as my female friends repeatedly allowed guys to manipulate and hurt them. I watched my male friends “run through” best friends and roommates, cousins and sorority sisters More »