I know exactly how the therapy thing works. The psychologist scribbles a series of illegible notes onto a legal pad, intensely observing your every move. She asks questions about your deepest feelings. Of course, she questions about your father, while you sit there spinning around in a wheeled chair, wondering how the heck the good folks at Trident get their gum to taste like a real pina colada. More »

When two people get married and start a family there are no promises. There are no books or classes on how to make a marriage and a family work. We enter these relationships with high expectations but with few skills. We do the best we can, hoping things last and we live happily ever after. It all seems quite simple but we know there’s so much more. More »

You try hard not to let your insecurities get the best of you. You just can’t shake the feeling that something was not right. You begin to entertain the thought of looking through your partner’s phone or email. Do you have the right as their partner? You should be able trust your partner enough not to invade his or her privacy, but if you were to resort to snooping, can it be justified? More »

When was the last time you sat and watched a basketball game with your chick? When was the last time you’ve went outside and played basketball with your dude? When was the last time you went shopping with your girl and actually participated rather than complain about how tired you are? When was the last time you recall sharing excitement with your other half and exchanging dap? More »

It is momentous in any relationship when a couple shares the three little words: I love you. It’s amazing how such a small saying can carry so much weight. When you’re a new-love bird, you say those 3 words all day, everyday. You can’t stop saying it. It is as close as you can get to describe how you feel. Well, what happens when you’re no longer a new lovebird…Is it ok for those 3 little words not to be said as often? What if they are only said to you after you’ve said them first? More »

What’s that….eww…what’s that smell? Yesterday I was riding the metro as I normally do; attempting to take up as much room as possible with my iPod on full blast. When, for no immediately obvious reason, an older woman, somewhat resembling Martin Lawrence in Big Momma’s House, decided to take the seat next to me. More »

Today’s question comes from Tired of Bugaboos. T-O-B asks, “Why is it that men who are a 3-4 on a scale of attractiveness feel they can holla at women who are a 7-8?” More »

As the song says, “There’s a thin line between love and hate”…it seems
as though that thin line is often blurred from emotions when people are in a relationship. More often than not we hear of relationships that have turned violent and/or we have been apart of an abusive relationship our selves at one point. More »

One evening, some friends were having a wine drinking session at the Symposium, a dainty restaurant uptown. After three or four bottles of wine, Sarah pours what should be her final glass of wine. She smiles, “I love you,” at her best friend, Grace.

Grace: “What is Love?”

Sarah: “I don’t know.”
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Today’s question comes from another young lady in the DC area.

Angry black female asks: “Why do guys yell ‘You ain’t shit!’ when you don’t respond to their random curbside hollers?” More »