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1. Malia

   Great post and as I read the article I realized that I am bombarded at any given moment with multiple streams of input. I face situations multiple times on a daily basis that require me to make strings of decisions. This has caused me to be pulled in many directions and because of that I have really had to take stock of my life. I have had to let go of some things (and people) that I felt were weighing me down and not conducive to my happiness and didn’t serve a purpose in my life anymore.

   I want to make every day COUNT. Every MOMENT count. I want to live my life on purpose and cherish ALLLLLL of my moments, not just some of them. In doing this I felt a need to really focus on things that matter to me and let everything else go, as to only give the BEST of MYSELF to things and people that matter.

   Multi-tasking and decision making will never end but as you attain knowledge of SELF things change. You don’t really tolerate a lot of bullshit, and you don’t let EVERYTHING filter through your brain….I know I don’t!

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   ChiCity Star reply on July 23, 2008 10:33 am:

   I always love your outlook on life Malia. I know it’s crazy out there but you always seem to put things into perspective. You are so guarded sometimes though, do you feel your thoughts can’t be swayed?

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   Malia reply on July 23, 2008 10:47 am:

   Awwwww…thank you sweetie! Of course I can be swayed! That’s the problem! We’re constantly engaged in hidden agendas and we sway people around us and we are swayed by others as well.

   Have you ever heard of the chameleon effect? There was a study with a group of men and women–who had never met each other–were told to have a short phone conversation. Now, before the conversation, each man was shown a picture of the woman he’d be talking to. Unbeknownst to the men, the pictures were fake. And half the men were shown a picture of a beautiful woman, while the other half were shown a picture of a less attractive woman. The pictures had nothing to do with what the real women looked like, and the real women had no idea that there were any pictures shown. The crazy shit is that the women who the men thought were pretty ended up sounding beautiful on the phone. And the women who the men thought were less attractive ended up sounding less beautiful.

   pause….
   Q. told me I sound like crap in the morning and I’m fucking gorgeous!!!!
   unpause……

   We take on the roles others ascribe to us. Think about that with everybody you deal with, homies, lovers, friends, employees or even with your kids. If we think someone is one thing or another, there’s a good chance they’ll live up to that role.

   Smart people make stupid decsions all the time. SO in order to make conscious clear decisions we need to be alert and pay attention! SO yes—— I am guarded all the time ChiCity…..

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   mrschocolatestuff reply on July 23, 2008 10:52 am:

   ROTFLMAO!!!! I see you didn’t take your meds today Malia, but you’re right, all it takes is being attentive and charismatic.

   you say the things they want to hear or what you think they want to hear. you use various pitches and tones, you win their trust and comfort and you’ve got them to where you are their biggest influences.

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   Jay Rome reply on July 23, 2008 10:57 am:

   That shit is deep Malia!

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   Q. reply on July 23, 2008 11:01 am:

   dang.. now i’m on full blast..

   to everyone, Malia has a sexy voice.. cool?

   now, in the morning? (don’t go thinking too crazy!!)

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   Malia reply on July 23, 2008 11:09 am:

   Eff YOU Q!

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   Q. reply on July 23, 2008 11:43 am:

   see!! it’s the morning!! you hear that tone??

   i’m just sayin’..

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   Traci reply on July 23, 2008 12:43 pm:

   I absolutely agree with you completely Malia. We all have had people in our lives at some point or another that when you were around them for any length of time you felt completely drained emotionally. They are usually the needy people who are hard to be around who have that affect on me so I had to cut them loose!

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2. mrschocolatestuff

   yes. too much brain usage will in time began to deplete it. that’s why it’s so important to refresh, rest and rejuvenate it. sleep, doing more relaxing things, eliminating stress all helps.

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   Malia reply on July 23, 2008 10:22 am:

   You are absolutely right about sleep girl! Losing sleep undoes the rejuvenating effects new learning has on the brain. As the pace of life quickens and it becomes harder to balance home and work, many people meet their obligations by getting less sleep (TROUBLMAN). But sleep deprivation impairs spatial learning — including remembering things. I notice the more sleep I have the more energy and retention I have at work.

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   mrschocolatestuff reply on July 23, 2008 10:54 am:

   I tell ppl that my son sucked my brain dry since he’s come into this world. I’m doing more thinking than I probably need to. lol.

   I think when you have children (depending on your mindset), you think in double time.

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   "A Mom" reply on July 23, 2008 11:02 am:

   You are so right, and it doesn’t change when they get older. Matter of fact is you stress more about the well-being of your adult children when they are away from the nest. It’s doesn’t end until your last breath. That is price we pay for bringing and loving our children. But at the same time I’m slowly learning to let go and take care of me. It’s hard but a must.

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   Traci reply on July 23, 2008 12:43 pm:

   I thought I was the only one who became simple minded after my children were born! I know all to well the affect that it has on your brain when you have inadequate sleep. I have some goals that I am trying to achieve and I want to be an example to my children so I think in triple to quadruple time because I have my concerns about my three kids in my head, I work full time and I am a full time student. I have had to learn to leave work issues at work and not take it home with me because once I got home I was overly stimulated by mommy duties and once the kids were in bed school studies.

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3. "A Mom"

   I’m having that sleeping problem. I realize that since I’ve been off of work for serveral months I have been stressing about so many things. My mind wants to take a brake but so many things are running thru my mind thus I’ve been getting about 3 - 4 hours at night if i’m lucky. Everything is suffering because of it. Exercise has slowed down as well. The good thing is that I know what I need to do and I will slowing fall back into place.

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4. TROUBLMan

   Realize he first decision we make everyday is whether to get up or not. It seems so innocent but it’s crucially important. This single decision determine whether we’re able to feed our families, whether we get our kids up for school, whether we read the news and connect with the larger world. This seemingly innocent decision is impacted by another seemingly innocent choice. What time we go to bed. I’m learning to make sleep my friend. It’s hard though because I’m a workaholic. Though, I’m finally realizing I’m not fighting the war at my full potential if my gun/mind is not on point. Sometimes I feel like my shit might fuck up and jam.

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5. "A Mom"

   I heard someone say yesterday. The quickest way to aging or even death has a lot to do with sleep. We owe our bodies that.

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6. troublsome

   In order to not let it fuck up or jam, you just have to clean it out a little… Before you get ready to use your gun. Clean it.. Get some kind of mediatation in you life, prayer or whatever it takes. Then as you set forth to start your day, and battle the war we fight everyday: Load your weapons and develop a plan and execute it.

   Put on your whole armor and get ready for combat…

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   TROUBLMan reply on July 23, 2008 11:58 am:

   Yoga is my Nitro Solvent … I need that.

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7. Traci

   I agree with this because there have been times when I felt mentally exhausted after dealing with something which took complex thinking.

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8. troublsome

   Yo, I am starting this week thanks to you Troublman… I forgot to tell you that you convinced me, So Yoga will very soon be a part of my daily regimen…

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