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A what-you-don’t-know-won’t-hurt-you attitude may have been acceptable 20 years ago, but it’s a new day and the things you don’t know can indeed hurt you. We always discuss the emotional aspects of cheating. But, what about the health risks? I do believe that truly loving someone requires an incredible amount of faith and trust, but when trust is broken, what if your heart isn’t the only thing burning from the fires of betrayal and revenge? Or worse, what if the after-effects of being cheated on are set to last a lifetime? According to avert.org, 68 percent of African American women contracted the HIV/AIDS virus through heterosexual contact.
Non-Hispanic blacks age 19 to 24 are 20 times more likely to be infected with HIV than young adults in any other racial group. AIDS is the leading cause of death among black women age 25 to 34.
If there ever was a “right time” to cheat, this most definitely would not be it. I’m angry for the first time in a long time that many men and women believe it is acceptable to stray. Protection isn’t used as often as it should be. A big butt and a smile should not be the determining factor in deciding whether or not to use condoms. I don’t have any respect for cheaters, and I don’t know anyone who does. But if one insists on playing the role of a “trifling jerk,” he or she should, at the very least, play the role right and become a “trifling jerk that uses protection when they cheat”. Don’t you think?
This don’t-ruin-the-mood-by-talking-about-STDs sexual lifestyle is one that causes more harm than good. After every 12-minute episode of hormone-raging Wrestlemania, one eventually has to slip back into the omnipresent grip of reality. Men are not solely responsible for the rising HIV/AIDS numbers among black women, for black women themselves have been careless enough to allow it to rise. To many, protection is synonymous with restriction. To others, asking your partner to use protection is showing a sign of distrust. But is that person really your partner, or the second half of your trifling jerkery? It’s simple, really. Don’t stray. Stray. Wrap it up. Before the entire black population ceases to exist. Assist.
Him: ” Babe, would you ever cheat on me?”
Me: “Hell no.”
16 Comments, Comment or Ping
TROUBLMan
Great topic!
When I was younger, me and my homies used to joke about having sex with different female celebrities and how if we had the chance, we wouldn’t use a condom. We used to say, “I’d put a baby in her.” Yeah right. I’m glad I realize how juvenille that shit was.
You would think “adults” would realize that these “12-minute episode of hormone-raging Wrestlemania”are enough to kill their ass, not to mention the danger they’re putting their partners in. No sex feels that good where I’d put my life on the line.
And you’re right, men and women are both responsible for this shit. Brothas need to realize, “If he let you hit that easy, you not the only one she fuckin… Plain and simple. And sistas, understand just cause he look clean, and has a job don’t mean he not a walking ball of HIV. If he fucking you raw, you’re probably a name on a long list of women. Some, who have enough respect to rap it up, others who don’t.
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"A Mom" reply on June 30, 2008 9:44 am:
It is about respect for yourself as well as your new mate, especially in a brand new relationship. First of all when entering in a relationship it seems sad, but both people need to be checked first because of past relationships. Those old relationships could be killers for you both.
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"A Mom" reply on June 30, 2008 9:46 am:
Very Good.
Your topic was short and to the point.
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LilMissTROUBL reply on June 30, 2008 1:05 pm:
Thank you
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LilMissTROUBL
that’s true! a really long list too. Santa Clause style.
& this is why a lot of people are actually scared to have sex. To some, it’s considered [the enemy]. But I understand why they would feel that way, especially lately.
It’s that initial slip back into reality…. thats where people feel the most foolish.
I am an impulsive person who cries at the sad parts of movies and all that but um, I’m smart enough to know that in certain situations, impulse can bite you in the soul.
I’m also going to be cliche right now and say, ahem: “Mama didnt raise no fool!” Mkay?
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TROUBLMan reply on June 30, 2008 10:56 am:
Damn. I wonder How it feel to be bitten in the soul.
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SB reply on June 30, 2008 12:08 pm:
I dont want to know how it feels but i like that phrase. i can imagine that is some *ish to endure. I hope it never happens to me.
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LilMissTROUBL reply on June 30, 2008 1:01 pm:
Thanks guys! I was laughing like a hyena when I wrote that. Like, no one has ever described such pain before.
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SB
Dayuum lilmisstroubl you said alot in so many words.
Well i have to say that when i was cheated on, I damn near ran to the doctor to see if i was ok. Luckily, i was but not everyone shares my luck. I know to many women that have been burned because they were careless or trusted someone they shouldnt have.
The way i see it, you shoudl not use condoms unless in an exclusive relationship with someone you can trust and even then you guys should get tested together.
I truly believe that the sex, love making whatever you call it- will be that much better without any second guesses or worries in the back of your mind.
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"A Mom"
The big problem is. A lot of people are running around living their lives not even noing that they have the disease. So this is really why it is becoming so prevalent.
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LilMissTROUBL
Yea many of us live life as if we are invincible. We clearly, are not.
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Alwayswrite reply on June 30, 2008 8:09 pm:
Once an individual plays with fire so many times and does not get burnt, that individual believes he or she is invincible. I know people who played with fire and GOT BURNT, still believing they are invincible. Definitely problematic. The most disturbing thing is that cheaters are willing to impose their “Evil Kanevil” (is that right?) lifestyle on the people they supposedly love. That shit is selfish. And just flat out, “Fucked up.” But, I suppose the sex really is that good–and that bad.
The best thing to do nowadays is find ONE person and settle down. The lifestyle may not be as “glamorous,” but at least I’m breathing. Plus, chasing a bunch of women gets old anyway. Anybody who says otherwise hasn’t chased enough. And, again, it’s just not beneficial anymore. “Fuck being a playa. They can have that,” I say.
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"A Mom"
I keep telling my daugther. She is one of those who thinks she invincible. I pray each time she goes out with different guys that she protects herself and to think about the consequences of her actions.
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Alwayswrite reply on June 30, 2008 8:11 pm:
People don’t think about consequences until the consequences are real. And no consequence is real until it happens. So, “living and learning,” the old saying, rings true to so many people. But, having HIV/AIDS is a lesson I want to bypass. I’ll take people word for it. That shits not cool.
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"A Mom" reply on June 30, 2008 10:27 pm:
It’s sad because two people meet and really become committed the queston is still there. How many people you slept with,they slept with and on and on.
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Sano
Girl ; that was the best way Ive ever seen that topic addressed . Well played.
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