Teammates

Written by: TROUBLsome

Teammates Teammates When was the last time you sat and watched a basketball game with your chick? When was the last time you’ve went outside and played basketball with your dude? When was the last time you went shopping with your girl and actually participated rather than complain about how tired you are? When was the last time you recall sharing excitement with your other half and exchanging dap?

Barack Obama has been fighting an on-going battle and has finally claimed the right to represent the Democratic Party in the presidential election. People all over the world watched the celebration of Obama’s appointment, expecting some form of “greater affection” between Barack and Michelle.

While people anticipated more, it was pure bliss. There’s nothing better than a simple dap. It means a lot. A hug or kiss is the norm. A dap shows that you understand one another.

Think about it: You’re in a room with friends, baggin on each other, and the funniest shit is spoken. “Awwwws” and “ooohs” are heard. An instant dap is guaranteed, simply stating a relation between you and whoever about a funny truth.

The reaction is received when playing sports. Kobe finishes off a dope play, getting an assist from Odom, Fisher, or Farmar. What do they do after the play? Dap and keep it pushin’. They keep a composure and attitude that says, “It’s nothing. This is what we do.”

Barack felt like Kobe—and Michelle was Odom, Fisher, or Farmar. This is what they do—win democratic elections. Barack has a dope woman by his side and, as a team, they already knew what they would accomplish. Fellas get a cool chick by your side, get a friend. Love and affection doesn’t always have to mean sex, hugs, and kisses. A great relationship, a friendship amongst partners, is the greatest display of affection. Fellas, make your partner a teammate and have them assist you. That is the mark of a true love, friendship, and relationship.

Tags: Love, Politics, Relationships | Jun 6, 2008 |

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Malia

Outstanding, extraordinary, spectacular piece TROUBLsome!!! I’m diggin’ your style TROUBLsome! I’m diggin’ your style! I need to stomp my feet and light a match for this piece right HERE!

When I love someone, I love forever! My extremely tough outer shell makes it difficult for others to truly penetrate my heart but once they do, my homie, lover, friend becomes pampered, adored and likely to be the focus of my feelings and moods. It is instinctive for me to nourish and dote upon the object of my heart and this is all-encompassing in virtually every way. As a woman I feel that it’s imperative to be the cheerleader for my mate and insipre him to see himself the way I see him. The world is cold and hard and I just want to be that place that he can come and KNOW that I am truly is in his corner - no matter what. A place wherre he can feel secure and know that I will stand behind him through thick and thin! Where he knows he’ll never be criticized or condemned because I will always believe the best in him and encourage him and inspire him to reach new heights.

SO I GIVE YOU DAP HOMIE!!!! —— THIS IS WHAT WE DO!!!!!

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Wadiya reply on June 6, 2008 8:30 am:
The only way to have a friend is to be one. A lot of men don’t show that same encouragement to us women. do you think it’s possible for men to be as supportive as we are and find true camaraderie?

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michelle reply on June 6, 2008 9:10 am:
Absolutely! I feel blessed. My relationship prior to this one, we were
not a team, at least not the way I thought we should be. So I
determined within myself that the man I spent my life with would be my partner,
my teammate and my confidante. I found him and it truly makes a
difference in the relationship. We encourage each other, and he keeps me on my
toes. We watch news together and debate issues, we talk about what we
need to do as a team. Bottom line, it feels like a team. I know he has
my back, and vice versa.

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Malia reply on June 6, 2008 9:15 am:
That’s beautiful. Congratulations. I always as if I give so much and never get even half of what I put out in return. How do you balance tat out? Because once I’ve given and given - something inside of me shuts down and I will leave as silently as I came.

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TROUBLMan reply on June 6, 2008 9:24 am:
It depends on the man. If a man is secure with himself he will be supportive. It’s the men that have insecurities that don’t support. My dad was one of those dudes. He didn’t want my mom to go back to school because it threatened him. He never even graduated from high school, while my mom was working to finish school for the second time. Although he never said it, I know It made him feel inadequate. If a man is or has achieved big things himself than he’ll be just as supportive of his lady doing the same.

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Q. reply on June 6, 2008 10:49 am:
i’m w/ TM.. i think if the man is on his job, it’s easy for him to be supportive.. i think it’s my responsibility to push her to the next level, because i know she will push me to mine.. i’m a firm believer that a man will go as far as his talents, but a woman will give him that extra edge and push to go further than his own talents.. i think, as a man, we have to reciprocate that..

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"A Mom" reply on June 6, 2008 12:49 pm:
Q
This touches me. I know you will be a supportive person to your mate because your word and actions are there. I know this because when you found out I was out of work you jumped right in to offer support. That means a lot.
Quality in a relationship takes two but I’m glad to hear that there are young men who know what edge and push a women can bring.

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Q. reply on June 6, 2008 1:47 pm:
thanks Mom!! i did see your post in that other thread as well.. i’m in your corner.. just get well, and we’ll all be here..

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"A Mom" reply on June 6, 2008 4:09 pm:
I have no doubt.
Thanks.

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"A Mom" reply on June 6, 2008 12:37 pm:
Sure it’s possible.
We have to realize that support goes both way. Not all women are supportive either. In this day and age Love, Respect and support is a two way issue. Both women/men need to address this issue. It is not one sided.

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Crystal

Now I love THIS picture.

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Malia reply on June 6, 2008 8:27 am:
I love that pic too! That’s REAL LOVE!!!

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Terrance reply on June 6, 2008 8:32 am:
Real Love…not that clinton love

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TROUBLMan reply on June 6, 2008 9:27 am:
Is it me or does Michelle look like the dominant partner. Barack is making the face my lady makes when I grab her.

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Q. reply on June 6, 2008 10:51 am:
HILARIOUS!

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toy reply on June 6, 2008 12:11 pm:
lol. i think that barack is just relishiing in the love…sometimes the man needs to be able to realize that his lady is so there for him that he can just…breathe.

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"A Mom" reply on June 6, 2008 12:43 pm:
Barack is the dominant partner. Michelle is there to push him down a peg when he forgets. She knows how to stand back and let him be the man and she is confident in her role and herself, so she doesn’t have to be dominant. People don’t understand what dominant means and are threatened by the word.
The picture means to me “The hole package”

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Felicia

I am learning to see my love partner without distortion; to value him as highly as I value myself; to give without expecting anything in return; to commit myself fully to his welfare. Only then can love move freely between us without apparent effort. It’s unconditional love between best friends.

When we are able to love in this selfless manner, we experience a release of energy. We cease to be consumed by the details of our relationship, or the need to operate within the artificial structure of exercises; we spontaneously treat each other with love and respect. Love becomes automatic.

My forever lover is my very best friend!

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Crystal reply on June 6, 2008 9:16 am:
dream on

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Malia reply on June 6, 2008 9:17 am:
LOL!!!!!! I feel you Crystal!!!! But elaborate please……

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Crystal reply on June 6, 2008 9:31 am:
I can’t really. I just don’t see reality in that anymore. Merely my opinion of course.

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TROUBLMan reply on June 6, 2008 9:28 am:
Damn Crystal. Sounds like you’ve been hurt. Spill the beans.

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michelle

Yes, it is awesome! My fiancee and I loved that moment and we always
talk about the Obamas as a real power couple because they are a team.

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Alwayswrite

I know. Don’t impose your bad situation on the entire scope of relationships. Keep that negative energy to yourself.

You can definitely have a best friend as a lover. In fact, that is the only way to get love. So…Crystal, sad to say, if you have lost faith in that, you will be a lonely woman.

Not trying to be mean, but you need to reopen your heart.

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"A Mom"

Crystal
Don’t keep that energy to yourself. You got all of us here to let it out on.
that is what Troubl is about. It’s our job to help you along the way, not to lose you. I know some people may give you a little tough love, but we are here for you.

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Leah Yvette

Relationships are difficult. They make you crazy, they make you laugh, and cry almost in the same instant. Many ladies and men make the mistake of giving up themselves before they even know who they are and what they are capable of giving and recieving.

I’m glad that we have a presidential canidate represents, maginalized communities and the unique American experience.

Troubl- I think is amazing that you can look back on your parents experinces and see them as a lesson to be learned instead of focusing on the abandonment.

I’m 24, my parents were divorced when I was 9 and in that time I can barely recall a time when my parents were in each others corner. I can’t even remember kind word spoken between them. I have 12 cousins out of the 12, only three of them come from a solid family unit (all three of them sister). So natually, that being my primary source of socialzation and first example of a romanitic relationship I went from one bad, abusive, growth stunting relationship to another. Which left me even more and Bitter than I had started. I felt like I was fighting on my own me against the world. At this point I could barely allow friends or family in because I couldn’t even begin to explain what the hell I was feeling.

Last year I met a few amazing individuals who inspired me to begin healling myself and in doing so my insecurities started to lift and I was able accept myself and other people for exactly the people we are, and love them flaws and all.

The greatest fighters have strong corners to be their eyes and ears when they can not see what is right in front ofr their face in the fight. ( a parallel to your Laker analogy)

I’m happy to say that I’m building a strong corner. It’s been almost a year and it’s been some work. But, my man is in my corner when I’m in the middle of the ring and me in his when it’s his time to get in the middle.

This is a great blog stream and dialouge Troubl… Keep it up.

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mrs. 39 ways of trouble

I spend alot of QT time with my boyfriend. We live together and of course, we need breaks from each other but I see him more like a friend, as well as a lover. We share in each other’s interest and love experience new aspects of life together.

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"A Mom" reply on June 7, 2008 10:37 am:
Thats what it is all about. Sharing.

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raven solomon

Yeah, yeah, TroubleSome***

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